Stuck with old thought patterns?

I hope I can enter the New Year without feeling stuck with old thought patterns. Those patterns include playing the “What If” game when life gets complicated. Sometimes, I find my mind dwelling on thoughts like “what happens if I lose my job or get sick or can’t pay my bills.” Do you worry and stress about the decisions that may or may not happen in life? Other times, feelings of inadequacy cause all of us to suffer and questions ourselves. Then, we waste time on self-accusation for the mistakes we made. We miss out on experiencing the joy of life as God intended it to be for us. We miss out on the peace that God provides to every person He created.


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John 14:27, NIV: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

My old thought pattern

I tend to over-think many problems as I try to come up with all the ways something could go wrong. My overthinking even invades my faith walk. Sometimes, I feel called to action only to find myself coming up with a million reasons why I might fail at the task. Then afterward, I beat myself up for missing out on something God had planned for me. And if the made-up scenarios don’t stop me, then I worry about seeking the approvals of others before completing the task. If only I could do a better job of letting go and letting God be in charge. Even that thought contained a “What If.”

Galatians 1:10 – NIV: “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Recently, I came across ttached quote that caused me to pause and think. Am I the person God wanted me to become or did all my “what ifs” and “over-thinking” turn me into someone else? I know Christ dying on the cross saved me from my sins. But I am nervous about standing in front of God and seeing what my life could have been like if only I had sought the kingdom of God first in my decisions. Will I be sad watching the person I could have been versus the person I was in life? Witnessing all the incredible things Christ could have done through me, if only I stopped playing the ‘what if” games.


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New Year, new thought pattern

There is good news for all of us. With God, all things are possible. It is never too late to begin again. As we begin 2019, let’s try to be the people God wants. We may have missed out on opportunities, but God will provide more for us if we stop playing the games. God has a plan, and a path marked out for each of us, all we have to do is follow it. Throw away your “what ifs” and “over-thinking” and follow Christ wherever he leads. He has a full and abundant life He wants to share with you.

Hebrews 12:1 – NIV: “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.”

Blessings,

Yvonne, Blogger, speaker, and author

Matthew 28:19 “Therefore, GO and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.”


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30 thoughts on “Stuck with old thought patterns?

  1. Melissa McLaughlin – From an early age, the beauty of nature and love of family pointed me to One who is greater, the Creator and Lover of my soul, Jesus. My writing is inspired by His Word and His Spirit. During the most desperate times of my life, I learned to use scripture prayers to be my voice when I had no voice. To find out more about my passionate prayer journey, check out my book "In Dark of Times When Words Fail, Voice of Jesus Pray for Me." Follow along and join me in this journey of loving Jesus!
    Melissa McLaughlin

    Dear Yvonne, happy new year! I appreciate this reminder to anchor my thinking in God and let Him lead the way. Blessings to you, your family and your ministry in the year ahead!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks so much Melissa. Praying for each of us to serve God to the best of our ability in 2019. God bless

  2. mimionlife – Writer of inspirational messages, sometimes laced with humor.
    mimionlife

    Missed opportunities can be lessons learned. The more we live for Him, the more we show His love to others. 🙂

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      You are so correct Melissa, we learn as long as we pay attention to His prompting. God bless

  3. Yvonne, so many struggle with worrying about the next steps and things that cannot be controlled. Your post is a reminder to look vertically towards God, rather than horizontally towards others, and to trust God for the next steps. Leaning into his promises and his protection and provision.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Yes Anne, we must always be looking vertically for our answers. Thanks and God bless

  4. Nancy E. Head – United States – Writer and teacher Nancy E. Head was a single mother with five children under the age of 14 when she attended Penn State to earn a bachelor’s degree in English and was elected to Phi Beta Kappa. Her career took a journalistic turn from radio news to newspaper reporting, then education before she returned to the classroom to secure a master’s degree in English from Indiana University of Pennsylvania. Currently an instructor at Penn State Altoona and Great Commission Schools, she also spent two summers teaching English in Asia and is a Distinguished Toastmaster. When not teaching or writing, she restores antique quilts, crafts projects for her grandchildren, and helps her husband lead a small group at their church devoted to ministering to the needy in their community.
    nancyehead

    Love this! Over thinking is not trusting God. That’s my problem way too often. Happy New Year! God bless!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Happy New Year Nancy. I know what you mean, it is a struggle. God bless

  5. authordlv – Christian writer, author, blogger. Visit my site at https://www.stephendelavega.com.
    Stephen De La Vega

    Yrs, those what-ifs can really big is down, Yvonne. For me, that sometimes stop me from speaking abbot Christ. Thank you for the encouragement to change this thought pattern.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      What-ifs are no fun and really affect our message. Thanks Stephen and God bless

  6. Lisa Q – USA Midwest – Lisa Quintana blogs at ThinkDivinely, and also for the Women in Apologetics (WIA) ministry, where she currently serves as Vice Chair of Communications. ​Lisa also has her M.A. in Christian Apologetics from Biola University, a B.A. in Communications (with news media emphasis) from Cal State University, Fullerton, and an A.A. in Christian Studies from Christian Life College, Illinois. Her articles have appeared in several Christian ministry sites. She teaches apologetics at her church in Wisconsin. She’s been involved in leading small group ministries for over 25 years, and recently began speaking at Christian conferences. Find Lisa on Twitter at @LisaQthinks.
    Lisa Quintana

    I am an over thinker, too. Your post is a confirmation for me – it all starts in the thoughtlife. One of my favorite verses is Philippians 4:8 (think about whatever is noble, etc). How we think effects how we act. It’s SO important! Thanks for the reminder.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Welcome to the club Lisa, lol. Our thoughts do impact so much of our life. Thanks and God bless

  7. This is a really good post. I liked your comment, “Our thought pattern can cause us to miss out on experiencing the joy of life as God intended.” When I focus on Him, He restores hope to my heart.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Anneliese. Focusing on Jesus each and every day will help us to align our thinking with His. God bless

  8. True, Yvonne, it’s never too late to begin again with God. Galatians 1:10 is one of my all time favorite verses. I want to be found pleasing the Lord and His approval about all others…to be and stay a servant of Christ.

    Thankful for the cloud of witnesses including you! Happy and blessed New Year!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Amen Karen. We learn so much from each other. May the Lord bless our new beginnings of the New Year.

  9. Good thoughts, Yvonne. Your post reminds me of the story Mark Twain told about a man who died and asked Peter who the greatest general of all time was. Peter pointed out a man who had only ever been a common laborer. The man who asked the question was perplexed. How could he be the greatest general if he had only ever been a laborer? Easy. He would have been if he’d ever been a general.
    It’s sobering to think of my potential and how I’ve squandered it on worries and fear. Good things to remember as we head into a new year.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Chip, that is an incredible story and so reflects the idea of this blog. It is sobering to image what could have been in our lives. God bless.

  10. Ava James – An indie author and lifestyle blogger. Words burst out at the most inappropriate times. Passion filled letters, impatiently exploding onto the page or screen when I'm consumed with something else. Besides life would be dull and boring if writing was straightforward. When away from her writing she works full time as a medico-legal professional. In her spare time she enjoys an adventure from the outdoors to dancing and anything sporty.
    Ava James (UrbMermaid)

    Thanks Yvonne so wonderfully put. It is so easy to revert to old thinking patterns when life throws us some tough curveballs. So encouraged by your post.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Ava. I appreciate your thoughts

  11. This is an encouraging post for the New Year. It reminded me of a poem, “His Plan for Me” by Martha Snell Nicholson and, in particular, the final stanza:

    “Lord of the years that are left to me,
    I give them to Thy hand;
    Take me and break me, mold me to
    The pattern Thou hast planned.”

    Happy New Year

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Hi Chloe, that is a beautiful poem. Happy New Year and God bless

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Jessica. God bless

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      I so agree on not missing out. Thanks Julie, God bless

  12. Lisa Q – USA Midwest – Lisa Quintana blogs at ThinkDivinely, and also for the Women in Apologetics (WIA) ministry, where she currently serves as Vice Chair of Communications. ​Lisa also has her M.A. in Christian Apologetics from Biola University, a B.A. in Communications (with news media emphasis) from Cal State University, Fullerton, and an A.A. in Christian Studies from Christian Life College, Illinois. Her articles have appeared in several Christian ministry sites. She teaches apologetics at her church in Wisconsin. She’s been involved in leading small group ministries for over 25 years, and recently began speaking at Christian conferences. Find Lisa on Twitter at @LisaQthinks.
    Lisa Q

    Oh this blog is very timely for me! I was just falling back into some negative thinking and my daughter actually called it out. She told me if I continued to speak out negative things, it cements those things in my mind. And so yeah, we need to be focusing on the positive things that God speaks of us – we are His kids, after all. Thanks for a great post!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks so much Lisa. Sometimes God reminds us through those around us. God bless

  13. Christina – United States – I am a writer, wife, and mom. God has lit a passion in me for pursuing thoughtful parenting. I am a seeker and investigator that likes to challenge the status quo. Also founder of Finally Family Homes - a ministry serving kids who are aging out of the foster care system in LA.
    Christina Dronen

    Yvonne –
    I totally relate to this.. overthinking. As if it’s up to me to figure everything out. God has been convicting me to rest a bit more and trust a bit more. I’m trying to do that “one word” thing for the new year… faith. I need faith that all this I am trying to do for God will work out – maybe not how I hope, but as best honors Him and faith that He can provide things that my overthinking & striving can’t.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      That is so wonderful Christina. Striving under our own strength gets us nowhere but so hard to do. My word for 2019 is Joy and trying to unpack it.

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