Dear Younger Me

Dear Younger Me is the name of a song by the group Mercy Me. I enjoy this song and listen to it often. Recently, I listened intently for the first time in a long time. These are the lyrics that jumped out at me:

Dear younger me
I cannot decide
Do I give some speech about how to get the most out of your life
Or do I go deep
And try to change
The choices that you’ll make cuz they’re choices that made me
Even though I love this crazy life
Sometimes I wish it was a smoother ride
Dear younger me, dear younger me

The singer wonders what he would tell himself if he could go back to meet his younger self. Would he warn himself of dangers so he could avoid them?

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

As I contemplated the words of the song, I thought over the trails of my life. Boy, would it be wonderful to avoid some of those difficulties. I would tell myself not to have three children so that I could prevent the heartache from the loss of my youngest child, William. I would hope to escape all those years of depression and sadness that still pop up from time to time. My life could be so much better if I could warn my younger self. The possibilities make me smile to myself.


For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

After some time passes, I realize that all those hardships in my life made me who I am today. Without the loss of my son, I would not have developed the desire to help other children. Then my ministry to orphans would not exist. I would not write my book on the adventures on the mission field, and I would not blog. My heart longs to undo the death of my son, but that event changed me into a new person. God is making me into the person He wants me to be and using everything in my life to shape me.

Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6

The songwriter began to understand this idea also. In the final verse of the song, he explains it this way:


Every mountain every valley
Thru each heartache you will see
Every moment brings you closer
To who you were meant to be
Dear younger me, dear younger me

God does not produce our griefs, but He does use them to grow us into the person He needs. We have the choice to remain locked in the past with regret and anger over our circumstances. Or we can allow the problems of life to shape us and bring us closer to God.

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Dear younger me, relax and trust God with everything. He will make all things whole in His time. Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.”

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Blessings,

Yvonne, Blogger, speaker, and author

Matthew 28:19 “Therefore, GO and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.”


Additional Resources:

Dear Younger Me- hear the song

God’s love for us

My Story

Learn about my work with orphans

37 thoughts on “Dear Younger Me

  1. mimionlife – Writer of inspirational messages, sometimes laced with humor.
    mimionlife

    I wish I had made better choices when I was younger. But, God had a plan for me through all my choices whether good or bad. To my younger self I would say, “Pause, pray and remember He loves you.”

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Me too Melissa. But thank goodness God is still faithful

  2. Lisa Q – USA Midwest – Lisa Quintana blogs at ThinkDivinely, and also for the Women in Apologetics (WIA) ministry, where she currently serves as Vice Chair of Communications. ​Lisa also has her M.A. in Christian Apologetics from Biola University, a B.A. in Communications (with news media emphasis) from Cal State University, Fullerton, and an A.A. in Christian Studies from Christian Life College, Illinois. Her articles have appeared in several Christian ministry sites. She teaches apologetics at her church in Wisconsin. She’s been involved in leading small group ministries for over 25 years, and recently began speaking at Christian conferences. Find Lisa on Twitter at @LisaQthinks.
    Lisa Q

    I am sorry to hear about your son, Yvonne. I didn’t know that about you, but now that I know, it makes a lot of sense why you are who you are today and what you write about. That is the Lord’s way, to be sure. In His Kingdom, suffering is not in vain. Bless your heart.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thank you Lisa. He would be 25 now . God plans are always perfect.

  3. What a beautiful post, Yvonne. I’m so sorry about the loss of your son. That is heartbreaking. But, I, too, believe God has the perfect plans for us. I never got to have kids of my own. When I feel sad about that, I stop and think about how much my stepkids needed me. I believe I could not have given them all the attention they needed if I had babies to care for. My work with my stepkids led to my upcoming book helping other blended families. Once again, God knew what was best. 🙂 Believing that helps me on this journey of life.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Amen. He does know best. Thanks

  4. Thank you so much Yvonne (and Bill for forwarding it). This brought tears to my eyes. Hard to see or understand while in the storm but I trust in God. He brought me the both of you into my life.

    Anyone who knows the both of you knows how big your hearts are and I am better for knowing both of you. 🙂

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Lyly. We are praying for you to see and feel God throughout your trials. God bless.

  5. Melissa McLaughlin – From an early age, the beauty of nature and love of family pointed me to One who is greater, the Creator and Lover of my soul, Jesus. My writing is inspired by His Word and His Spirit. During the most desperate times of my life, I learned to use scripture prayers to be my voice when I had no voice. To find out more about my passionate prayer journey, check out my book "In Dark of Times When Words Fail, Voice of Jesus Pray for Me." Follow along and join me in this journey of loving Jesus!
    Melissa McLaughlin

    Dear Yvonne, I remember reading about the loss of your precious son in your book. A mother’s deepest heartache. Thank you for sharing how God used your terrible loss and pain to bring about good things for His kingdom. God can bring healing from our ashes for His glory. May God continue to grow your faith and your wonderful ministry!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Melissa. Good reminder today on Ash Wednesday.

  6. I wouldn’t wish my year of grief on anyone, but losing four loved ones in one calendar year resulted in a somewhat jaded but more authentic faith. I can’t imagine the pain of losing a child; my heart goes out to you. I love the music of Mercy Me; also Jason Grey’s “Not Right Now.” Thanks for this genuine, heartfelt blog!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thank you Candice. Our grief and pain form us into the people we are now. I would not wish it on anyone but I can’t imagine who I would be without it.

  7. Ava James – An indie author and lifestyle blogger. Words burst out at the most inappropriate times. Passion filled letters, impatiently exploding onto the page or screen when I'm consumed with something else. Besides life would be dull and boring if writing was straightforward. When away from her writing she works full time as a medico-legal professional. In her spare time she enjoys an adventure from the outdoors to dancing and anything sporty.
    Ava

    This is such a good post reminding us of how many times we overlook God’s goodness in our lives. Thanks for great insights!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thank you Ava. God is always good

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thank you Jessica. Our stories all matter

  8. I often think I wouldn’t want to change the hard times, because I learned so much about God’s character during those days. Even though they were painful, I’m so thankful for how God can use all things for His glory!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Amen Emily.

  9. Joey – Ohio
    Joey

    Yvonne, I’m so very sorry for the loss of your son, but I’m truly inspired by your faith in God and how He’s used your hardships to make you who you are today. What a powerful post this is! Last night I had a moment with our daughter and it was like looking into the eyes of the younger me as I tried to explain things to help her avoid a lot of difficulties. And later I thought, I can pray and tell her my own stories, but only God knows what she needs to go through to become the person He wants her to be. So I will continue to pray for Him to help her every step of the way. Thank you so much for this post. Blessings to you and your wonderful ministries!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Joey. God uses all our stories to help those around is

  10. Unmasking the Mess – I'm a wife, mother, writer and Jesus follower. I make a lot of messes or seem to get into messes. I honestly admit that I need help from God every day. Unmask the mess with me and find out why messes might be good.
    Julie Loos

    What a thought to ponder: what would I tell the younger me?
    Love your honesty and the encouragement in this post!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thank you Julie. God bless

  11. Yvonne, this is powerful and beautiful. The Scriptures, the lyrics, and your thoughts all go so well together. I didn’t know you lost a child. I’m so sorry…that is very sad and tragic for anyone, much less us mommas.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Karen. I appreciate it. God is merciful in all His does.

  12. What inspiring thoughts to see how God used such a tragedy in your life to bring about good for others. I, too, see how He used my difficult moments to bring me to understanding and ministry I have today. Thanks for reminding me to be more thankful for those times and His grace.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Beth. Give thanks in all circumstances. May the Lord bless you and your ministry

  13. Melinda Viergever Inman – earth – Raised on the Oklahoma plains in a storytelling family, Melinda now spins tales from her writer's cave in the South. Her fiction illustrates our human story, wrestling with our brokenness and the storms that wreak havoc in our lives. Find her at http://melindainman.com.
    Melinda Viergever Inman

    So, so true! All of those hard times were part of God’s good plan for our lives to refine us and to grow us. The things we’d like to eradicate are the things that made us who we are. Your verse choices to share were really uplifting in this context of advising our younger selves. Great post, Yvonne!

    1. Melinda Viergever Inman – earth – Raised on the Oklahoma plains in a storytelling family, Melinda now spins tales from her writer's cave in the South. Her fiction illustrates our human story, wrestling with our brokenness and the storms that wreak havoc in our lives. Find her at http://melindainman.com.
      Melinda Viergever Inman

      AND, the death of your son. I know it’s long past, but I offer my condolences. I know you still miss him, and I’m sad you had to suffer that loss.

      1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
        Yvonne

        Thank you. I appreciate it

    2. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thanks Melinda. Refined in the furnace

  14. Michelle – Virginia – Hi there! I'm Michelle, a frugal homeschool mom who loves to read and make crafts! I also love making dollar store items look high end. I love to relax with a good book or a ball of yarn and a crochet hook. I'm also a blogger at Blessings by Me and owner of an online store where you'll find my handmade items. God bless!
    Michelle

    I love this song! It always makes me stop and think. Sure, I wish I would have made different choices in my younger life, but God has a reason and a purpose for everything. 🙂

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      And God’s purposes are good. Thanks Michelle.

  15. thisgratefulmama – Christ follower. Wife. SAHM of three. Allergy mama. Learning what it means to be grateful for what I already have and to find joy in everyday moments.
    thisgratefulmama

    I had the privilege to hear this song in concert last spring. I love the message that God uses everything in our lives for His glory. We certainly cause detours and experience consequences, but we can’t derail God’s plans and He is faithful to complete His work!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      He is so faithful to us. It is a great song. I hope to hear it live someday.

  16. Jeanne Takenaka – Award winning aspiring novelist, Jeanne Takenaka, writes contemporary inspirational fiction that tackles real life issues with a heart to draw women closer to God and those around them. She lives near the mountains in Colorado with her amazing husband and two exuberant boy-men. She loves being God’s girl—always learning about His grace, hanging out with friends and enjoying a great cup of coffee. When she’s not writing you can find her with a camera in her hand, looking for #alittlebitofpretty in her days.
    Jeanne Takenaka

    Yvonne, you’re so right. The challenges, problems, mistakes we walk through in our younger years truly do shape us into the people we are today. I’m thankful for God’s faithfulness and unchanging love!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne

      Thank you Jeanne. Always good to remember how God shapes us. He is faithful.

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