That’s Not Fair

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That’s not fair,” my daughter yelled at me before she stomped off to her room. The walls vibrated from the force of the door slamming. I responded with my usual saying of life is not fair. If you have teenagers in your household, you are familiar with this kind of scene. Even though my kids grew up and moved on, I still remember days like this one. Why do we think we deserve particular things in life? Maybe the event occurred in such a way so that God could teach us something.

That’s Not Fair

Unrecognized

That’s not fair when someone gets recognized for completing a task or project, but no one acknowledges us when we complete our mission. We feel slighted or snubbed. Our selfishness makes us envious instead of allowing us to celebrate the other person. Isaiah 60:22b; “I, the Lord, will bring it about quickly in its time.” Events in life happen in God’s time, not ours. Did the coworker get a reward so that we could learn to trust in God’s time?

Inconvenienced

That’s not fair became a battle cry as COVID spread across the globe, and we could no longer live like we used to do. We felt entitled to our former freedoms like eating out and visiting friends. Again, we want to focus on how the problem impacts us. We don’t want to be inconvenienced. Philippians 2:6; “Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage.” Jesus was inconvenienced when He gave up His heavenly life. Is God using this time so that we can appreciate what we have in life?

Overwhelmed

That’s not fair, Martha implied as she asked Jesus to make her sister Mary help her. Mary sat at Jesus’ feet as Martha prepared the meal. Martha felt overwhelmed and underappreciated. She thought it was unfair for her to do all the work. Luke 10:42; “but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Is Jesus showing us that time at His feet so that we can learn from Him is better than busyness?

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So That

Life is not fair. God did not promise us a life without trials and heartache. In fact, just the opposite is true so that we can learn God’s ways. We see this truth in John 16:33; “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” 

Bible Verses to Help

Here are some additional Bible verses for when the struggles of the unfairness of life overtake you.

When you feel forgotten, read Hebrews 6:10; “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.”

When we feel unappreciated, read Colossians 3:23; “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.”

When we feel overwhelmed, read Matthew 11:28; “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

When we feel inconvenienced, read Philippians 2:3; “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” 

When we feel tested in our faith, read James 1:12; “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.”

When we feel like giving up, read Revelation 21:4; “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

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Wrap-Up

Broken promises, disappointments, and unfulfilled dreams will be a part of our lives on this side of Heaven. We all face these kinds of events that leave us thinking that’s not fair. God is with us every step of this journey even when we feel like that’s not fair. Look to Him for comfort and encouragement so that you can remain faithful. Remember Matthew 28:20; “and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Prayer

Dearest Lord Jesus. I often want my life to go a certain way, and I feel slighted when it doesn’t. Please forgive me when I question how You treat me or think that’s not fair. Give me the patience to wait on You and the understanding so that I trust in Your ways. Thank You for everything Your hand provides to me. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

Blessings,

Yvonne M. Morgan is a Christian author, blogger, and speaker.

Matthew 28:19 “Therefore, GO and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.”

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22 thoughts on “That’s Not Fair

  1. Melissa G. Henderson – Writer of inspirational messages, sometimes laced with humor.
    mimionlife

    What a powerful message! We often miss the moments filled with blessings when we only focus on the negative. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Thanks so much Melissa. We do like to focus on the perceived negative effects on us instead of how God intended. God bless

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Thanks Vivian. You are correct. That is a good way to think about it. Thanks and God bless.

  2. Such truth here. Sometimes things really are NOT fair. Why do some kids have food and water while others are forgotten and starving in some other nation? Why do bad things happen to God-loving people and good things happen to those who seem to mock the Lord? Who knows. But you are right: God has a way of making good things come from even bad circumstances. Some of those good things are lessons that help us develop wisdom.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Thanks Jessica. Things in our world can be unfair but we still trust in God’s way. His ways are higher than ours and hard for us to understand. Thanks for commenting and God bless.

  3. Ava Pennington – Bible study teacher, speaker, and author of Daily Reflections on the Names of God: A Devotional.
    Ava Pennington

    Actually, God is NOT fair and I’m glad He’s not. If He were, Jesus would not have died for our sins. There’s nothing “fair” about someone else paying my price. But God IS just. And Christ’s death on the cross satisfied God’s justice regarding my sins. So grateful!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Great point Ava. We never think it is unfair that Jesus died for us. I am so grateful as well. Thanks for commenting and God bless.

  4. Janice D. Green – South Carolina – Janice D. Green writes Bible storybooks. She is the author and illustrator of The Creation, a Bible storybook illustrated with hand-appliqued quilt pictures. Her second book is The First Christmas. Janice is passionate about reaching young families with the message of the Bible through her Bible storybooks, her blogs, and Bible quilts. She is a retired elementary school librarian. Read her blog posts at: www.honeycombadventures.com www.hiswhisperings.com www.biblebites4teens.com www.biblebites4you.com
    Janice D. Green

    Good to remember. Sometimes we need an expectations adjustment and a willingness to wait.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Thanks Janice and yes we do. Thanks for commenting and God bless.

  5. Melinda Viergever Inman – earth – Raised on the Oklahoma plains in a storytelling family, Melinda now spins tales from her writer's cave in the South. Her fiction illustrates our human story, wrestling with our brokenness and the storms that wreak havoc in our lives. Find her at http://melindainman.com.
    Melinda Viergever Inman

    This is a powerful truth that would help so much if we learned this reality starting early in life, and yet our immature self absorption often delays our learning these powerful lessons.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Thanks Melinda. It is an important lesson that we need to learn and understand. So often, it seems to be about jealousy- we feel mistreated when someone else get something and we don’t. Thanks for commenting and God bless.

  6. Nancy E. Head – United States – Writer and teacher Nancy E. Head was a single mother with five children under the age of 14 when she attended Penn State to earn a bachelor’s degree in English and was elected to Phi Beta Kappa. Her career took a journalistic turn from radio news to newspaper reporting, then education before she returned to the classroom to secure a master’s degree in English from Indiana University of Pennsylvania. Currently an instructor at Penn State Altoona and Great Commission Schools, she also spent two summers teaching English in Asia and is a Distinguished Toastmaster. When not teaching or writing, she restores antique quilts, crafts projects for her grandchildren, and helps her husband lead a small group at their church devoted to ministering to the needy in their community.
    Nancy E. Head

    Instead of seeing things as fair or unfair (and I do my share of that), we can think of what’s happening as something to stretch us–to teach us, to let us help others.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Good idea Nancy. We must look at things through God’s eyes instead of our own. Thanks and God bless

  7. Lisa Q – USA Midwest – Lisa Quintana blogs at ThinkDivinely, and also for the Women in Apologetics (WIA) ministry, where she currently serves as Managing Editor. ​Lisa also has her M.A. in Christian Apologetics from Biola University, a B.A. in Communications (with news media emphasis) from Cal State University, Fullerton, and an A.A. in Christian Studies from Christian Life College, Illinois. Her articles have appeared in several Christian ministry sites. She teaches apologetics at her church in Wisconsin. She’s been involved in leading small group ministries for over 25 years, and recently began speaking at Christian conferences. Find Lisa on Twitter at @LisaQthinks.
    Lisa Q

    You are absolutely right in that when things seem unfair, God can use it to teach us something. I have struggled with this, too, and God has revealed to me my selfish heart. Ugh. It’s so hard to look at sometimes, especially when you think you have conquered it, and then God says: “Nope, I am not done molding you in that area.” I guess, this side of heaven, God is continuing to work on our characters. I still have a long ways to go!

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      I have a long way to go too. But we are trying and learning together. A burden shared is a lighter one. Thanks for commenting Lisa and God bless.

  8. Melissa McLaughlin – From an early age, the beauty of nature and love of family pointed me to One who is greater, the Creator and Lover of my soul, Jesus. My writing is inspired by His Word and His Spirit. During the most desperate times of my life, I learned to use scripture prayers to be my voice when I had no voice. To find out more about my passionate prayer journey, check out my book "In Dark of Times When Words Fail, Voice of Jesus Pray for Me." Follow along and join me in this journey of loving Jesus!
    Melissa McLaughlin

    Such an important Biblical truth. Thank you for teaching on this, Yvonne. We have all experienced things in life that truly are not fair. But God’s ways are higher than ours and He is interested in our Christlike character, more than our comfort and pride.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Amen Melissa. It is so very important to hold onto out Christlike character. Thanks for commenting. God bless

  9. Yvonne, I’ve uttered those words, “It’s not fair.” I’m sure as a child and teen. Perhaps even as an adult. And truth is, life. is. not. fair. And “All is not fair in love.” If it was, Jesus wouldn’t have had to die a brutal death to take our place. So this is why I love your reflective question to consider what God is teaching us to have allowed it.

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Great thoughts Karen. If life was fair Christ would not have hung on a cross for us. But yet we still think we are unfairly treated. Thanks for commenting and God bless.

  10. I have to admit, I have not been happy with Covid and the difficulties it has caused our family. I have been quarantined for longer than I ever wanted to be. And then there is the fact that my mom almost lost her life to it and my husband is not sick with Covid. But you are right, Yvonne, to ask, “Is God using this time so that we can appreciate what we have in life?” He surely is.

    I was just thinking about how much time I have had with the Lord in these last few months due to the fact I’m stuck at home more than usual. And then there are the many prayers that I have been praying for my mom and my husband. Intimacy with God has been the fruit of these troubles. And this is a blessing! 🙂

    1. Yvonne – I am a wife, a mom of two grown daughters, and one son who lives with Jesus. I am also a grandmother. I am passionate about missions and writing about the amazing stories of seeing Christ in action on my journey. God led me to set up a charity, which cares for orphans in Nepal and Myanmar. I hope my stories inspire you to reach out and be the hands and feet of Christ to someone.
      Yvonne Morgan

      Intimacy with God is such a beautiful blessing and one we can often overlook. But I know what you mean. I am praying that God protects you from any more issues with COVID and He continues to strengthen you. Thanks and God bless.

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